Sikkim The land of Orchids

Among seven sisters one of the sister state called Sikkim which is know for orchids and its beauty. The smallest state in India, area is 7,096 km2 (2,740 sq mi), Population – (2011) 610,577. The most beautiful part of Sikkim! – Yumthang Valley and there are many amazing places to see and visit. we can find more than 449 species of orchids in Sikkim so it is said that its know as the library of orchids.

Dendrobium Nobile

Dendrobium Nobile is the state flower of Sikkim, and has the distinctive long thin jointed stems of many members of the genus Dendrobium. The flowers of Dendrobium Nobile are pale to deep purple-pink with a characteristic dark velvety centre.

Documentary on Sikkim

The Eight Lucky Signs of Sikkim

  1. The Dug (Parasol)
  2. The Bhumpa (Vase)
  3. The Conch Shell (Dhungkar)
  4. The Banner of Victory (Gyaltsen)
  5. A Pair of Golden Fishes (Sernya)
  6. The Lotus Flower (Pema)
  7. Knot of Eternity (Palbheu)
  8. The Wheel of Dharma (Choekyi Khorlo)

1Dug(parasol)
signifies the shade under which one can have the fortune of escaping from the suffering of the scorching heat of all sort of miseries of world.

2.Bhumpa(vase)
like vase of in exhausting treasure, this signifies the fortune of having an in exhausting luxurious wealth of wealth of good health, long life and material wealth.

3.Dhunkar(the conch shell)
signifies the awakening of sentient beings from the state of their ignorance and persuading them towards the path of noble deeds that’s are beneficial to self and others.

4.Gyaltsen(victorious banner)
signifies the fortune of having victory of good over the evil force which obstructs the success of noble goals and also the victory of the dharma preached by Buddha.

5.Sernya(golden fish)
signifies the ability to swim with ease without any hindrance in the ocean of sansaric world and from happiness to happiness into the water of blissfulness. This also  signifies the two truth-plain and transcendental truth.

6.Pema(lotus)
like lotus which though grown in the mud remains free from the muddy dirt, this signifies the purity of one’s mind and deeds which are free from the dirt of sins, symbol of non attachment.

7.Palbheu(endless knot)
signifies the fortune of complementing every aspect of the life harmoniously to each other such as religion and politics, wisdom and means and of knowledge and comparison.

8.Choeky ki khorlo(wheel of dharma)
signifies the fortune of passing the time of all the sentient being under the blessings of Buddha’s wheel of dharma being turned eternally  without coming to an end.

Most Poisonous Trees Found in India

Not all but some trees and plants are poisonous to pets, animals, and humans, that produce toxins or contain poison also includes Rosary pea, Datura, and madar, a divine flower with the list of medical uses and offered to Lord Shiva.

Suicide Tree (Cerbera odollam) – Most Dangerous Tree in India The suicide tree is native to India and other parts of Asia, Mostly found around the coastal salt swamps and in marshy areas, and known to contain toxins that are dangerous for humans.

Strychnine Tree (Strychnos nux-vomica)Strychnine tree is also native to India and Southeast Asia, known as poison nut tree and source of the highly poisonous seeds but at the same time used to promote within herbal medicine.

Marking Nut Tree (Semecarpus Anacardium) or varnish tree found in India from the Himalayas to the Coast of Tamil Nadu. The deciduous tree is closely related to cashew and some parts of the tree are used in Ayurvedic for medicine but the black fruit is toxic.

Yellow/White Oleander (Cascabela Thevetia) Yellow oleander is another most poisonous plant found in India, though cultivated widely as an ornamental tree. The bright yellow, white, and orange flowers are used for worshiping Lord Shiva in India and a divine temple flower.

Indian Laurel (Calophyllum inophyllum)The West Indian laurel also known as Alexandrian laurel is widely used for producing a very hard and durable wood but the fruits and leaves contain compounds said to be poisonous to fish. Calophyllum inophyllum is best known as an ornamental plant for fragrant white flowers and decorative leaves.

Sea Poison Tree (Barringtonia Asiatica) A sea poison tree is grown for decoration in some parts of India but native to mangrove habitats. All parts of the tree are poisonous to humans and the seed powder is also used to kill fish.

Castor Beans (Ricinus communis) – Poisonous Common Plant in India Castor oil plant widespread throughout India and source of castor oil, highly poisonous seeds and one of them found in the world. India is the largest producer of castor oil seed followed by China and Mozambique.

Indian Devil Tree (Alstonia scholaris)Saptaparni is the state tree of West Bengal and is known as Saptaparni, Flowers bloom in the month of October and are very fragrant similar to the Cestrum nocturnum flowers. Alstonia scholaris is an evergreen tree and said that this tree is causing seasonal fevers as well as not good for the people with asthma.

Selfishness

 concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself: seeking or concentrating on one’s advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others. Arising from concern with one’s welfare or advantage in disregard of others a selfish act.

When you hear the words “you’re so selfish,” they probably feel like an insult. To call someone “selfish” is to criticize their character, label them immoral, and suggest that they pay too much attention to themselves and not enough to others

The word most commonly translated into occurrences of the English word “ambition” is a Greek word denoting selfishambition. Eritheia: a desire to put one’s self forward; self-seeking pursuit of political office by unfair means

One of the most prime examples of selfishness in the Bible is the story of Cain and Abel. Cain was jealous of his brother Abel’s sacrifice to God. As a result, Cain sinfully and selfishly murdered his brother.

How do I fix my selfishness?

With that in mind, here are some simple ways to put others first, and be a little less selfish.

  1. Be A Good Listener.
  2. Show A Bit Of Empathy.
  3. Donate Some Of Your Money.
  4. Donate Some Of Your Time.
  5. Give Your Parents A Call.
  6. Give Rude People A Free Pass.
  7. Be All About Little Surprises.
  8. Be The Person Who Calls A Friend.

 Traits of Selfish People

  • They do not show weakness or vulnerability.
  • They don’t accept constructive criticism.
  • They believe they deserve everything.
  • They do not listen to those who do not agree with them.
  • They criticize others behind their backs.
  • They exaggerate their achievements.
  • They are scared of taking risks.

How can I change my self centered behavior?

If you’re feeling too selfcentered, make a point of befriending someone you don’t particularly like, and make yourself figure out a way to like them. Try to guess why someone is the way they are. If your little sister copies everything you do, try to give her a break. It’s probably because she looks up to you.

What is the difference between selfish and self-centered?

Selfish (of a person, action, or motive) means lacking consideration for others, and/or is concerned chiefly with one’s profit or pleasure. In contrast, selfcentered means being preoccupied with oneself and one’s affairs.

SELFISHNESS

​A doctor, a lawyer, a little boy, and a priest were out for a Sunday afternoon flight on a small private plane. Suddenly, the plane developed engine trouble. Despite the best efforts of the pilot, the plane started to go down. Finally, the pilot grabbed a parachute and yelled to the passengers that they better jump, and he bailed out.

Unfortunately, only three parachutes were remaining.

The doctor grabbed one and said “I’m a doctor, I save lives, so I must live,” and jumped out.The lawyer then said, “I’m a lawyer and lawyers are the smartest people in the world. I deserve to live.” He also grabbed a parachute and jumped.

The priest looked at the little boy and said, “My son, I’ve lived a long and full life. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Take the last parachute and live in peace. “The little boy handed the parachute back to the priest and said, “Not to worry Father. The smartest man in the world just took off with my backpack.”

                                       

The Selfish Man

Once upon a time, there was a selfish man. He liked everything to be his own. He could not share his belongings with anyone, not even his friends or the poor.
One day, the man lost thirty gold coins. He went to his friend’s house and told him how he lost his gold coins. His friend was a kind man. As his friend’s daughter was coming from an errand she found thirty gold coins. When she arrived home, she told her father what she had found. The girl’s father told her that the gold coins belong to his friend and he sent for him. When the selfish man arrived, he told him how his daughter had found his thirty gold coins and handed them to him.

After counting the gold coins the man said that ten of them were missing and had been taken by the girl as he had forty gold coins. He further commented that he will recover the remaining amount from him. But the girl’s father refused.
The man left the gold coins and went to the court and informed the judge there about what had taken place between him and the girl’s father.

The judge sent for the girl and her father and when they arrived asked the girl how many gold coins she found. She replied thirty gold coins. The Judge asked the selfish man how many gold coins he lost and he answered forty gold coins.
The judge then told the man that the gold coins did not belong to him because the girl found thirty and not forty as he claimed to have lost and then told the girl to take the gold coins and that if anybody is looking for them he will send for the girl.
The judge told the man that if anybody reports that they have found forty gold coins he will send for him. It was then that the man confessed that he lied and that he lost thirty gold coins but the judge did not listen to him.


This story teaches us to be always honest as dishonest never pays.

Anger

The strong emotional reaction of displeasure, often leading to plans for revenge or punishment. There are many words for anger in Hebrew; in Greek orge and thumos  are used more or less interchangeably.

Refrain from anger, and Forsake Wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil”.

 (Psalm 37:8)

“A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quits contention”.

(Proverbs 15:18)

You’ve had one of those days. You know them. The kind where you wake up late and have nothing to wear to work. Once at work, your boss is on your case for a project you found out about just this morning, you get stuck in traffic on the way home, and then your house is abuzz with demands and noises and it’s all about to send you over the edge. Anger is rising and you can feel that the next person that asks you for something is going to get it. When you finally do snap, you feel guilty and wonder how you let yourself get to this point again. Where can you go when your struggle with anger feels like a daily…maybe even hourly occurrence? God’s Word! Scripture points us to the danger and foolishness of anger, but it also directs us with, and not all anger is bad. Jesus got angry, but angry for the right reasons: the things that dishonored God and people taking advantage of others.

 A violent passion of the mind excited by a real or supposed injury; usually accompanied with a propensity to take vengeance, or to obtain satisfaction from the offending party. This passion however varies in degrees of violence, and in ingenious minds, maybe attended only with a desire to reprove or chide the offender.

Anger is also excited by an injury offered to a relation, friend, or party to which one is attached; and some degrees of it may be excited by cruelty, injustice, or oppression offered to those with whom one has no immediate connection, or even to the community of which one is a member. Nor is it unusual to see something of this passion roused by gross absurdities in others, especially in controversy or discussion. Anger may be inflamed till it rises to rage and a temporary delirium.

“If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day.” — Ephesians 4:26. The Good News: When we’re angry, we can do something we might regret later or act in a way that could hurt those around us

Is Anger Sinful?

Christians often define anger as an emotion that, alone, is not sinful. Many suggest that anger is only sinful when expressed in a manner that harms someone else. By reasonable deduction, one can assume then that anger that is not expressed behaviorally does no damage and has no effect that can be considered wrong or disobedient. Even Christians with good biblical knowledge incorrectly use Paul’s instruction to the Ephesians as evidence that emotion is fine as long as their action is not sinful:

“Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil” (Eph 4:26-­27).

The one who is damaged the most by my anger is … me!

Many times the person who has hurt me so badly, or annoyed me, or frustrated me to no end, isn’t even aware of the anger I’m experiencing toward them – or they don’t care. Either way, my anger isn’t hurting them. But what it is doing is dragging me down emotionally. It’s destroying my peace and stealing my joy … and often, it’s hindering my prayers. And that, the Bible says, is foolish!

Don’t think about bananas!

What’s in your mind right now? Probably the image of a beautiful yellow banana. And the more you tell yourself to stop thinking about bananas, the more firmly that image will lodge itself in your mind.

Have you ever been in a car accident? I vividly remember the helpless feeling I had when I stopped at a red light and saw in my rearview mirror that the truck coming up behind me would never be able to stop in time. And yes, that drunk driver plowed right into the back of my car.

What are you thinking of now? Probably not bananas! Not unless you deliberately tried to hold onto that image once I drew your attention to car accidents.

So, here’s the secret to keeping your thoughts under control. Every time you find that your mind has slipped back into that same old rut of anger and bitterness, deliberately turn your thoughts to some of the many blessings God has brought into your life. You may need to write out a list so you’ll have it handy. And use the Scriptures. The Bible itself provides ample raw material for counting your blessings!

Letting go of our anger when we have been hurt is not easy. But if we put these biblical principles into practice, we’ll be well on our way to controlling our anger rather than allowing it to control us.

How to Stay Cool, Calm & Collected

Second Corinthians 10:5 instructs us to take every thought captive into the obedience it becomes a stronghold in our mind. In other words, we can choose what we are going to think and dwell on.  

We can continue to fuel our angry emotions with wrong thoughts…or we can take a stand and, with God’s help, refuse to allow the situation to get out of control.  

So, when you feel yourself getting upset, the sooner you say “No!” to those thoughts and feelings, the better. Instead of letting the anger control you, you can pray something like:  

“God, please help me. I know being upset is not going to get me anywhere. This person hurt my feelings and that was wrong, but I’m not going to act on this. With Your grace and strength, I’m going to control myself, and I’m going to trust you to take care of the situation.”  

I want to encourage you to forgive those who have hurt you. Let go of any angry feelings you’re holding on to and place those situations in God’s hands.  

We can trust Him to be our Vindicator. God is bigger than our feelings and He has given us self-control so we can walk in peace and experience His perfect love when we need it the most.

laziness

It is the desire to be idle, to do nothing, resist the effort, procrastinate and postpone doing things.

It is a state of passivity and of letting things stay as they are.

“A sluggard’s appetite is never filled, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied.” “All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.” “Whoever is lazy regarding his work is also a brother to the master of destruction.” “Laziness brings on deep sleep, and the shiftless go hungry.”

person is being lazy if he can carry out some activity that he ought to carry out but is disinclined to do so because of the effort involved. … Synonyms for laziness are indolence and sloth. Indolence derives from the Latin indolent, ‘without pain’ or ‘without taking trouble’.

 “What does the Bible say about laziness?”

 
Newton’s first law of motion states that an object in motion tends to remain in motion and an object at rest tends to remain at rest. This law applies to people. While some are naturally driven to complete projects, others are apathetic, requiring motivation to overcome inertia. Laziness, a lifestyle for some, is a temptation for all. But the Bible is clear that, because the Lord ordained work for man, laziness is sin. “Go to the ant, you sluggard! Consider her ways and be wise” (Proverbs 6:6)

The Bible has a great deal to say about laziness. Proverbs is especially filled with wisdom concerning laziness and warnings to the lazy person. Proverbs tells us that a lazy person hates work: “The sluggard’s craving will be the death of him because his hands refuse to work” ; he loves sleep: “As a door turns on its hinges, so a sluggard turns on his bed” ; he gives excuses: “The sluggard says, ‘There is a lion in the road, a fierce lion roaming the streets’” , he wastes time and energy: “He who is slothful in his work is a brother to him who is a great waster” , he believes he is wise but is a fool: “The sluggard is wiser in his own eyes than seven men who answer discreetly” .

Proverbs also tell us the end in store for the lazy: A lazy person becomes a servant (or debtor): “Diligent hands will rule, but laziness ends in slave labor” (12:24); his future is bleak: “A sluggard does not plow in season, so at harvest time he looks but finds nothing” (20:4); he may come to poverty: “The soul of the lazy man desires and has nothing, but the soul of the diligent shall be made rich”.
There is no room for laziness in the life of a Christian. A new believer is truthfully taught that “…it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast” (Ephesians). But a believer can become idle if he erroneously believes God expects no fruit from a transformed life. “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10). Christians are not saved by works, but they do show their faith by their works (James 2:18, 26). Slothfulness violates God’s purpose—good works. The Lord, however, empowers Christians to overcome the flesh’s propensity to laziness by giving us a new nature (2 Corinthians 5:17).

In our new nature, we are motivated to diligence and productiveness out of a love for our Savior who redeemed us. Our old propensity toward laziness—and all other sins—has been replaced by a desire to live godly lives: “He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need” (Ephesians 4:28). We are convicted of our need to provide for our families through our labors: “If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8); and for others in the family of God: “You yourselves know that these hands of mine have supplied my own needs and the needs of my companions. In everything I did, I showed you that by this kind of hard work we must help the weak, remembering the words the Lord Jesus himself said: ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive’” (Acts 20:34-35).

As Christians, we know that our labors will be rewarded by our Lord if we persevere in diligence: “Let us not become weary in doing well, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Therefore, as we have the opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially to those who belong to the family of believers” (Galatians 6:9-10); “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving” (Colossians 3:23-24); “God is not unjust; he will not forget your work and the love you have shown him as you have helped his people and continue to help them” (Hebrews 6:10).

Christians should labor in God’s strength to evangelize and disciple. The apostle Paul is our example: “We proclaim him [Christ], admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone perfect in Christ. To this end I labor, struggling with all his energy, which so powerfully works in me” (Colossians 1:28-29). Even in heaven, Christians’ service to God will continue, although no longer encumbered by the curse (Revelation 22:3). Free from sickness, sorrow, and sin—even laziness—the saints will glorify the Lord forever. “Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain” (1 Corinthians 15:58).

How to overcome Laziness?

  1. Make your goals manageable. Setting unrealistic goals and taking on too much can lead to burnout. …
  2. Don’t expect yourself to be perfect. …
  3. Use positive instead of negative self-talk. …
  4. Create a plan of action. …
  5. Use your strengths. …
  6. Recognize your accomplishments along the way. …
  7. Ask for help. …
  8. Avoid distraction.

“How soon ‘not now’ becomes ‘never’.”

Break down a task into smaller tasks

We often avoid tasks because we find them too big, too overwhelming, too tiring, or taking too much of our time. Breaking a task into several smaller tasks can solve this problem. Then, each task will not seem so difficult or intimidating.

Instead of having one big task, we will have a series of small tasks, which do not require too much effort.

This approach can be applied not only to tasks but also to goals and everything else we have or need to do. This will tend to melt much of the laziness and inner resistance we often experience.

Rest, sleep, and exercise

In some cases, laziness is due to being tired and lacking energy. If this is true in your case, you need to give yourself the rest and sleep you need, and you also need to give your body enough exercise and fresh air.

Rest, sleep and exercise give your body the strength and refreshment it needs.

The importance of motivation

In some cases, the reason for laziness is due to a lack of motivation.

You can strengthen your motivation through affirmations, visualization, and thinking about the importance of performing your task or chore or achieving your goal.

Have a vision of what and who you want to be

Frequent reflection on the person we want to be, the goals we want to achieve, and the life we want to live, can motivate you to make plans and act to achieve them.

Think about benefits

Think about the benefits you will gain if you overcome your laziness and take action, instead of thinking about the difficulties or obstacles. Focusing on the difficulties of carrying out a task, leads to discouragement, avoidance of taking action, and to laziness. You must focus your mind and attention on the benefits, not on the difficulties.

Thinking about the consequences

Think about what will happen, if you succumb to laziness and do not carry out your task or chore.

Thinking about the consequences of not acting, can motivate and push you to take action so that you avoid negative consequences.

Doing one thing at a time

Focus on doing one thing at a time. If you feel you have a lot to do, you will probably feel overwhelmed and let laziness overcome you, instead of you overcoming laziness.

Too many tasks might seem intimidating, but if you take just one task at a time and focus only on this one, things become easier to handle.

Visualization

Your imagination has a great influence on your mind, habits, and actions. Visualize yourself carrying out any task easily, energetically, and enthusiastically. Do so before starting any task, and also when you feel lazy. Do so also when your mind whispers to you to abandon what you are doing.

Repeat affirmations

Tell yourself over and again:

“I can accomplish my goal.”
“I have the energy and motivation to act and do whatever I want or have to do.”
“Doing things makes me stronger.”
“I have the inner strength to do anything I want to do.”
“I can easily awaken motivation in me.”
“I do everything now, not later.”
“Doing things makes things happen.”

Regard tasks as exercises that strengthen you

Consider each task as an exercise to make you stronger, more decisive, and more assertive. It is an opportunity to exercise your inner strength, get out of your comfort zone, and learn to take action.

Take each task as an opportunity to reveal the inner you, the strong and fearless you. This will help you develop the ability to tackle everything in your life with courage and confidence.

Procrastination

Avoid procrastination, which is a form of laziness. If there is something you have to do, why not do it right now and get through with it? Why let it stay nagging at the back of your head?

Learn from successful people

Watch successful people and how they do not let laziness win. Learn from them, talk with them and associate with them.

Overcoming the habit of laziness is achieved through a series of daily actions and activities. You need to choose to act, instead of staying passive.

Do not be afraid to leave your comfort zone. Your comfort zone might be comfortable and cozy, but it can keep you in one place, preventing you from making progress.

Every time you overcome your laziness you get stronger. Every time you choose to act, you increase your ability to win, achieve goals, and improve your life.

I hope you will find useful these tips on how to stop being lazy.

Forgiveness

There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.

“The weak can never forgiveForgiveness is the attribute of the strong. Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much. The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naïve forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget”.

“Forgiveness is the key to action and freedom.”


“There is nobility in compassion, a beauty in empathy, a grace in forgiveness.”

Forgiveness story

Forgiveness is central to Gospel teachings. Forgiveness is love in the highest form. The prayer of  Jesus before  he breathed his last breath is the greatest example of forgiveness   He prayed for the very men  who were taking His life “ Father forgive them for they know not what they do” It actually takes more strength to forgive  than to keep anger and resentment. It is  a  transforming experience which makes us more humble and compassionate. Forgiveness heals our deep wounds. When we hold on to hurt full feelings our relationship is shattered, and we are emotionally hobbled. Anger and bitterness make it difficult to concentrate on anything and it destroys our peace of mind. Forgiveness heals our wounds and allow us and to move on and lead a more meaningful life. Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness; on the other hand it needs more strength to forgive. When you refuse to forgive the other   person the memory of the painful experience keeps on hurting us. Forgiveness does not wait for the other person to apologise. Forgiveness takes time, patience and determination. It restores a damaged relationship and you ate the prime beneficiary of it. Forgiveness means to forget the evil done and never to brood over it again

 What is forgiveness?

 Psychologists define forgiveness as a conscious decision to release feelings of resentment towards a person or group who have offended you,

 Why is it important to forgive?.

 Forgiveness is important for our peace of mind and happiness It releases us from anger, resentment, and a vengeful attitude.

  Almost every day of our life we come across some kind of bad experiences when we interact with people. It is unavoidable. When we are offended, two options are left before us, either to ignore the incident or harbour vengeance and anger against the person, who caused the hurt. Everybody makes mistakes intentionally or unintentionally. Forgiveness is restoring and rebuilding broken links. Here I am going to write about the benefits and rewards of letting go of a painful past

 How do we react when we are offended?

 Regardless of where and with whom we live, parents, spouse, children, and friends’ friction are inevitable. Sometimes we ignore the person, behave with bitterness and pride, stop communicating with them, abruptly end a relationship, yell at them, talk behind their back, and always think about ways to give back the hurt and humiliation in the same coin. The feeling of hostility and grief may arise within us. Our heart becomes bitter and resentful leading to destructive attitude and actions which will lead to regret later. Offenses not forgiven lead to the coldness of heart and coldness lead to a hardened heart.  A hardened heart becomes a corrupt heart which shows we are not emotionally mature.

  How to gain emotional maturity?

 First of all, we should not allow our hearts to get hardened. We should deal with our emotions maturely and constructively. Remaining offended for long shows our emotional immaturity and it becomes a stumbling block to attain spiritual blessings. Most of the offended people hide behind their pain and keep themselves aloof from society. They abstain from the normal flow of life, experience cooling of relationships with others and the joys of human fellowship. They are depriving themselves of attaining real happiness and are not able to trust others.

 What are the benefits of forgiveness?

 Forgiveness protects us from conditions like anxiety and depression. It significantly reduces blood pressure. Harbouring bitterness leads to the release of stress hormones.  Of course, getting hurt by someone you trust causes anger and frustration. If you dwell on long over resentment and hurtful feelings, it disturbs you mentally and physically. Forgiveness puts an end to the problem once and for all, while a tit for tat worsens the situation. It gives a chance to further indulge in wrongdoings against each other. Forgiveness means undoing wrongs with rights the culture of forgiveness helps in the building up of a better society, where positive values flourish and peace and harmony prevail. To err is human but to forgive is humane.  We have to forget and forgive for our well being, if we brood over the matter we are destroying our peace of mind and concentration, holding on to an offense is like spreading poison in our mind. If we have offended another person we must acknowledge our error, repent and ask for forgiveness and seek to restore our relationship.

How to guard the gate of our heart

 Be careful about what and whom you listen to. Receive only those words which are edifying and bring peace and joy. Do not accept words of fear anxiety and doubt, words that destroy your peace and happiness. We need to regularly monitor our heart. We have to remove the bitterness and unforgiveness harbouring in our mind for a healthy heart. We must make a conscious decision to be empathetic and compassionate Self cantered and selfish people think about their benefit in any bargain. When we are offended we ignore the person, stop communication with the person, we rejoice any misfortune he experiences, We lash out at the person, exaggerate the incident, spout insults, create strife, and plot to take vengeance against our enemy.

Instead talk to the person who has offended you and try to restore the broken relationship through reconciliation, forgiveness, and peace. By doing this you are removing the emotional torture you suffer because of mistrust, anger, confusion, and fear.

By Dr. Susy Mathew

The Scariest Places in India

India the land of mystery. For centuries, travelers around the world who had made their journey to India have been fascinated by the mystical energy that surrounds the country. From religious practices to rituals that are quintessentially Indian, Therefore, when it comes to listing the most haunted places in India.

The places in India have become places of interest for those who are fascinated by the supernatural, reading about and sharing stories of these mysterious places in India might be the next best thing!

It should also be noted that these ghostly places in India have come under the spotlight as they have been visited by ‘supernatural detectives’ wanting to experience or debunk the strange events occurring here. In fact, these modern-day ‘ghostbusters’ camp in these places overnight to record any strange occurrences which they then monitor before they come to any final conclusions.  Steel your nerves, and take a peep into a list of haunted places in India which have sprung to the forefront either on the basis of what many people have deduced or by word-of-mouth:

Ghost Town of Bhangarh

The Bhangarh Fort is a 16th-century fort built in the Rajasthan state of India. It was built by Bhagwant Das for his younger son Madho Singh. Rajasthan is one of the scariest places in India, in addition to being one of the most abandoned places in India. Located near a famous forest in the area, this town is now slowly luring visitors from around the area, and country. However, it should be noted that if you decide to visit the town after sunset, you will be not be allowed. In fact, there is a strict warning that it is out of bounds after the sun sets.

The story which this town is well-known for tells the tale of how a magician who was in love with the local princess of the area was forbidden to ever fall in love with her. Unhappy with the decision, he decided to cast a spell on her to make her surrender to him. The princess, who was also a disciple of the occult learned of his plans and found a way to kill him.

Even before his death, the magician cast a dark spell on the palace which caused its doom. Despite the story surrounding the ruins, it still is a fascinating place to visit. In fact, it has also been officially promoted as a tourist destination. However, once night falls, the place becomes deserted, leaving the darkness to engulf it once again till morning comes.

Ramoji film city

It is a big film city in Hyderabad,(like universal studios) the hotels in Ramoji film city are haunted. They say that the film city is built on war grounds of the Nizam sultans. Witnesses report the lights kept on top keep falling off, the light men- who sit with the lights on top have been pushed so many times and many have had grievous injuries.

The food left in rooms also gets scattered around the room and strange marks are left on the mirror, some script…. resembling Urdu…the language spoken by the sultans. Girls are the ghosts’ favourite to haunt. They trouble the girls so much, they tear their clothes, knock on the bathroom doors while the outside doors are locked. They create havoc. Many preventive measures have been taken to prevent hauntings……but of no use…they keep coming back after some time.

Dow Hill in Kurseong

Darjeeling may not necessarily be considered as one of the abandoned places in India but it can surely be one of the most haunted places in India. This small township is famous for some of the best boarding schools in West Bengal. The Dow Hill Boarding School for Girls is at the centre of supernatural activity by all accounts.

There have been many reports of the school’s corridors being haunted. Additionally, the forest that surrounds the school is also considered to be haunted. In fact, many woodsmen who visit the forest have reported seeing a headless boy who suddenly appears and then disappears into the forests. Legend has it that there were innumerable murders which took place in this forest area.

Brij Raj Bhavan Palace

In Kota, Rajasthan should also be on your itinerary as one of the most ghostly places in India. This old palace which has now been converted into something of a heritage hotel is apparently haunted by a British ghost who was killed during the Revolt of 1857.

There are some who also add that a Major Burton (the ghost) along with his sons was shot right inside the palace and therefore, he haunts the place. In fact, in this palace, considered by many as one of the most mysterious places in India, the ghost of the Major does not really harm anyone, but during the night, there have been reports of guards getting slapped in the face. Therefore, visit the palace at your own risk.

Kuldhara village

In Rajasthan that is said to be haunted. There is a horrifying evil aura in this town. According to the legend, residents who had dwelled here for centuries vanished overnight. Since the 1800’s this village has been deserted.

According to the tale, Kuldhara village was initially inhabited by very wealthy people, the Paliwal Brahmins. The stories claim that there was a Minister named Salim Singh, who fell in love with one of the villager’s daughter. He threatened all the villagers that if he wasn’t allowed to marry this girl, then he would burden them with irrationally high taxes.

The villagers from Kuldhara left the village and moved elsewhere, in order to protect the girl and themselves from the Minister’s tyranny. It is said that when they left they cursed the village, because of which no one dwells in this area.

Jatinga a village in Assam

Mass suicide has always managed to freak us out. Imagine walking on a road and watching birds fall to death. These are mass suicide committed by birds. Jatinga a village in Assam has witnessed this paranormal phenomenon for years.

What is creepier is the fact that this happens only on no-moon days between 6.00 PM to 9.30 PM, during the months of September and October.  It is also said that these bird suicides happen only on a stretch of 1 mile by 600 ft land.

Many have tried to explain this occurrence through theories, but none of them have been convincing. This unusual happening intrigues several travellers and researchers.

Tunnel number 33

Has instilled fear in the minds of travelers being one of the creepiest haunted places in India. This tunnel falls on the Shimla-Kalka railway stretch. It is the longest and straightest tunnel located close to the Barog railway station.

This tunnel is also historically significant since it was supposed to be built by Captain Barog, a British engineer. But he could not complete the job and was fired from the job and was ridiculed. In depression he one day went to the tunnel and shot himself. It is believed that his friendly spirit still haunts the tunnel. There are many more paranormal activities reported here.

Ross Island in Andaman

Beauty with the hidden beast, Ross Island in Andaman attracts tourists to its beautiful sandy beach and eerie cobwebs of roots spread across the land.  let you experience the morbid British settlement, abandoned long back and now claimed by nature. The remains of the buildings, colonial establishments and military barracks that existed long back are now engulfed by the deep dark forests and roots intertwining the beauty of this place. Ferry rides take you to this deserted island with leftovers of the place still enticing people to its haunting past.

Kerala food and cuisine

In the olden days’ people usually in the morning used to have the leftover rice which was dipped in the water and spicy bitter curd kept overnight in the morning served with kappa and meen-curry ( tapioca and sardine or mackerel fish curry )   this formula was so powerful that the people were very strong and with disease resistance was found in this food combination, later research was conducted, it was found that keeping over- night rice in spicy curd solution this produces Penicillin and kappa and a fish-rich source of carbohydrate and protein and more vitamins. 

Kerala is famous for its Sadhya, served at the festival Onam and consisting of boiled rice and a host of vegetarian dishes on a banana leaf. cuisine also features a lot of seafood like fish, prawns, mussels, and crabs because of its long coastline. Nadan food – (Typical Kerala food). It’s a typical kappa (tapioca) and various combinations of fish and beef curry/ fry. The Kerala region in India can be said as an exceptional state especially when one tries to understand the stereotypical assumption of South Indian food.

People are non-vegetarian as they eat rice and fish. Kerala’s openness to outside influences such as new foods and new people is notable and quite different from mainstream South Indian patterns, which tend towards conservatism, closure, and valorization of the familiar and the local. Meanwhile, there are certain items associated strongly with community identity and are the very food items that are the ones people seem most attached to. They are the foods that evoke food memory, which comfort and provoke desire and appetite, which are the subject of nostalgic longing. They are the distinctive festive community-identified foods that are the most highly-appreciated in open discourse and discussion about meals.

The three most famous fruits of Kerala  Banana are called ‘Ethakka’, the giant Jackfruit of Kerala called ‘Chakka‘, which is the largest fruit in the world, and the small sweet banana of Kerala called ‘Pazham’.

Kerala cuisine offers a multitude of both vegetarian and non-vegetarian dishes prepared using fish, poultry, and red meat with rice a typical accompaniment. Chillies, curry leaves, coconut, mustard seeds, turmeric, tamarind, and asafetida are all frequently used.

Kerala God’s Own Country

Kerala or Keralaputra both are the same. Keralaputra has a history behind its name during 3rd  century BC, one famous emperor, Asoka the Great named Kerala as Keralaputra it means Kera- (coconut Tree) and  Alam – ( Land or Location). It has 38,863 km2 in area and is the 21st  largest state in India. Tamil Naidu, Karnataka, and the Lakshadweep Sea to the west are the neighboring states, one of the ten paradises of the world by National Geographic Traveler, famous especially for its ecotourism, beautiful backwaters.

 Its unique culture and traditions, coupled with its varied demography, have made Kerala one of the most popular tourist destinations in the world. Malayalam is spoken mainly in Kerala, it is the official language of the state of Kerala and the union territory of Lakshadweep as well.

Statehood 1 November 1956
Capital Thiruvananthapuram
Districts 14

It is well-known for its mesmerizing backwaters, ecotourism initiatives, scenic beauty, amazing beaches, and mouthwatering cuisine. Malabar Coast has nearly 600km of Arabian Sea shoreline. It’s known for its palm-lined beaches and backwaters, a network of canals. Inland are the Western Ghats, mountains whose slopes support tea, coffee, and spice plantations as well as wildlife. National parks like Eravikulam and Periyar, plus Wayanad and other sanctuaries, are home to elephants, langur monkeys, and tigers.

Dance & Art

Sikkim, the state of the multi-racial has acclaimed the national and global appreciation for its indigenous heritage and traditions. In Sikkim, the three major groups are comprised of Lepchas, Bhutias, and Nepalese.  Sikkim folk dance has become an integral part of Sikkimese culture and traditions. Most of the Sikkim culture dance is associated with the enchanting environment and beauty of nature.  Few of Sikkim dance personifies the harvest system, and some of them are performed for the invoking the deities, and some for entertainment purpose. The dances of Sikkim are traditional musical instruments, chanting, and the dancers carry bright costumes and traditional masks. Some of the most famous dance forms are Rechungma, Gha To Kito, Chi Rmu, Be Yu Mista, Tashi Zaldha, Enchey Chaam, Lu Khangthamo, Gnungmala Gnunghey, and Kagyed Dance.

NEPALI FOLK DANCE

  • Maruni
  • Tamang Selo-
  • Dhaan Naach
  •  Sorathi: Gurung Folk Dance
  •  Chyabrung- Limbu or Subba Folk Dance

Food and cuisines

Sikkim’s food is a rich mixture of Nepalese, Bhutia and native Sikkimese and also slight touch of Tibetan food, blend of different culture.  Rice, Maize are the staple produce consumed in Sikkim. The cuisine of Sikkim is by and large non-vegetarian. A lot of vegetables are fermented to preserve them for a longer time.

Meals typical format bhat – dal- tharkari – achar  (rice-legume soup-curry-pickle) . A boiled rice and lentil soup containing spices such as coriander, turmeric, cumin, and Garam masala. It is often cooked with onion, garlic, ginger, chili, tomatoes and served with a vegetable tarkari.

Phagshapa.-  Generally a dish for the summers, Phagshapa – is a pork based dish served with rice. … Chaang— In the bitter-cold winters of Sikkim, it is ideal to try out an alcoholic beverage to keep you warm. …Kinema Curry. …Kodo Ko Roti. …Sael Roti. …Gundruk and Sinki. …Chhurpi… churpi  these are exotic cuisine.

Thukpa is a very well-known Sikkimese egg noodle dish that originated from Tibet. We also know it as Gya-thuk. It contains vegetables or meat in a meat-based broth and is spicy. It is mixed with soup and flavored with vegetables which are crumbled. Chopped onion, green chilies, and Garlic add spice flavor to the noodles. It is much liked by both local ones and tourists. It is available in all the restaurants in sikkim.

Momos

Are dumplings for the Tibetans, which are found in cafes and restaurants easily in Sikkim.
It is one of the traditional foods of China and Nepal. Momos are available in various types which are deep-fried momos, steamed momos or boiled momos ., Momos are served with  soups along with   hot spicy chutney & sauce  and stuffed meat and partial veggies inside makes a perfect blend for the cold winter Can experience the heat and the warm while eating this dish.

Gundruk Soup

The vegetarian soup popular in Sikkimese households as well as can find in restaurants too. It serves as a good purpose during the winter or chilly seasons. Cooked with   tomatoes, garlic, onions etc. This is prepared  with sage leaf or mustard leaves they call it “raya ko saag” first crushed and kept for fermentation for 3 0 – 45 days then dries and kept safe in a container for the winter or any season when there is shortage of  veggies this is cooked. It is very delicious and appetizing.

Kinema Curry

 food made of fermented soybean, sliced tomatoes, and spices  Some flavored enhancers are onion, turmeric powder, tomato, and red chili. It is a Sikkimese curry which is traditional and is rich in proteins. It has a unique taste, and they take almost all rice items it is serve as a meat substitute.  Sikkimese used them later for curries, soups, and pickles.

Sael Roti

Nepalese origin food. It is a soft pretzel made from fermented rice batter, local a flavor which is ring-shaped. They fry it deeply until it gains the perfect moisture and color. People eat sael roti during special occasions and festivals. This is doughnuts, crispy and crusted which add to its taste to a more wonderful one. They serve it with tomato chutney and can serve the purpose of a good snack along with some potato curry.